When the Titanic Is Sinking...Choose the Lifeboat
Sometimes a relationship feels like the Titanic.
It was once grand, full of promise, built to last. But now it's taking on water. And you're standing on deck, frozen... wondering if you should stay and help patch the holes, or climb into the lifeboat and save yourself.
You are not jumping ship. You've tried, supported, loved, honored, rebuild, participated...this is not throwing in the rope, this is reaching for the life jacket...this is choosing to live your best life.
Here's the truth:
When the ship is sinking, you are allowed to choose survival.
You are allowed to say, "This is not worth my life." You are allowed to get in the lifeboat, even if it's scary, even if it's uncertain, even if you don't know where you'll end up.
Your life jacket is choosing yourself. Your lifeboat is any decision that protects your peace, your children, your future. Your oars are the boundaries, the support systems, the small brave steps you take to move forward.
Some people will try to pull you under.
Not because they want to, but because they're drowning too. You don't owe anyone your breath while you're gasping for air.
Practical ways to survive the sinking:
- Name the truth: Write it down. Say it out loud. Let it be real.
- Build your lifeboat: Find one safe person, one plan, one next step.
- Put on your life jacket: Choose yourself. Every day. Even when it feels selfish.
- Don't wait for rescue: You are the rescue.
- Let go of guilt: Survival is not betrayal.
- Trust the ocean: It's vast, yes. But it also holds new shores.
If you're in this place, standing on the deck, heart pounding, unsure what to do... this space is for you.
You are not alone. You are not weak. You are not failing. You are choosing life.
And life, your life, is worth saving!!!